The dilemma is if we say no, we set up the possibility that our daughter will hide future feelings just so she can have sleepovers. We can't tell if Sally is 'testing the waters' or just likes the extra attention. This friend, 'Sally,' appears unsure of her sexuality (she has a boyfriend but also seems to like our daughter). My gay/bi teen wants a sleepover with a straight friend who she admits she also likes romantically. I have read your gay-straight sleepover columns, but they are focused on friendships.

DEAR STRAIGHT TALK: Our daughter is gay/bisexual.